Twins, lesbians, and SPD.


First things first: good news.

I went along to the local Twins Club meeting last week. It was lovely. One woman (who then gave me a ride home, bless her) had three month olds, and another had six month olds. I have never seen so many children in my freaking life. This club isn’t just twins – it’s anyone with multiples. I think everyone was a twin (or a sibling) but the number of children compared to the number of adults was staggering. Think I will be going back! Was useful to cuddle some babies and ooh and ah – and also get some advice about stuff.

So, that was step one in Creating A New Life for myself. Step two? TMD and I went round to that local lesbian family I told you about last weekend. Went by for just a cup of tea and ended up there for more than two hours – I think we were a mutual hit, with lots of friend-liking going on. The woman I’d been texting with (Lezzie #1 ?) is going to take me around to meet her friend with three year old twins.

This family we met lives literally around the corner from us. Perhaps Green was not wrong in saying our town was a hotbed for lesbianism? The best thing about this couple is that they are not social-heavy. They like to stay at home and only have a few really close friends. This is exactly how TMD and I are, so it bodes well for the future.

I do feel like I need to take steps to make myself a new life. Work is something of the semi-past, at least for the next year and a half or so. Making local connections is important, as if I was isolated at home with two babies I think it would be very difficult. Of course, there’s still the small matter of the fact that I don’t drive over here, but we’ll brush that under the carpet for now.

So: the not so good news. Went to the specialist physio yesterday – it was an hour and a half long appointment, which is unheard of in this land of ten minute doctor appointments. I have officially been diagnosed with SPD. The physio was quite gloomy about SPD, the chronic pain, and the fact that you can’t actually do anything to make it go away while you’re pregnant. She also asked if in lesbian relationships there was one more dominant, manly partner. Ha.

Um, anyway.

She’s put me back on crutches – and when she taught me to use them for SPD, she said I was a natural. I was like, ‘Well, I was on crutches for six or seven weeks not that long ago.’ TMD is horrified I brought another pair of crutches into the house, but I wanted the physio to size them for me properly. So anyone living locally who wants to crutches, you know where to get them!

I have more to say about the SPD, but that’s not for now. The physical assessment and exercising yesterday has left me in a good deal of pain, so I don’t want to sit up for too long. However, I AM tranferring all recent bump pics to the computer so they will be up today for sure.

Love to you all.


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13 Responses to “Twins, lesbians, and SPD.”

  1. Megs Says:

    Can I just say… I totally diagnosed you with SPD 3 weeks ago. Now we’ll wait and see if the heartburn kicks in, and I think you’ll find you are prepared for that as well. ;o) Well done for finding a lezzie family! What other gay-family friendly towns have you heard about?

  2. Megs Says:

    Can I just say… I totally diagnosed you with SPD 3 weeks ago. Now we’ll wait and see if the heartburn kicks in, and I think you’ll find you are prepared for that as well. ;o) Well done for finding a lezzie family! What other gay-family friendly towns have you heard about?

    • existere Says:

      Why? You want to move but our town isn’t good enough for you? Ha. I don’t know about little towns….it was a fluke that we moved here.

      I know you diagnosed me. And I have been convinced of it for a number of weeks. Nice to get confirmation (always fun when someone asks if they can touch and push on your pubes!), but crutches? Good times.

      No heartburn yet. My pelvis might be all fucked up, but my digestion is okay….so far. Don’t jinx me.

  3. 2momswithaplan Says:

    Finding another lezzie family is awesome! We’re not very social-heavy either but we have many friends who are. They are always trying to get us to go out during the week… I mean… hello… not on a school night!

    Anyways… I can bet that if we lived around the corner from you guys we would be the best of friends as well! 😀

    I don’t really know what SPD is, but I hope you are able to feel better soon!

    • existere Says:

      I think you are right. And being best friends with people who live within walking distance? MAGIC. It has only happened to us once, when we lived across the street from Aussie. That shit was awesome. Back and forth in pajamas.

      I think I’ll link to SPD info or post more stuff about it soon.

      (And NEVER on a school night. Jesus.)

  4. Tatiana Says:

    can’t wait to see more bump picks 🙂

    Also, it’s awesome that you found someone so close to be friends with. I’m jealous. It can be so lonely to be home with the baby (babies!) all day.

    My head is still too fuzzy from sleep to have more to say really.

    • existere Says:

      Not sure how much longer I’ll be able to go to Twins Club as I’m all twincapacitated, but hoping the other lesbian takes the initiative with getting in touch. It was fun, but I still hate cold calling virtual strangers!

  5. nutella Says:

    Was hoping they’d at least have some options to treat your SPD. I have had relief from my chiropractor, but I don’t know how difficult it would be to find someone willing to treat you where you live.

    But hurrah for new friends!

    • existere Says:

      Maternity belt, four exercises, strict instructions about do/don’t do things (for life & labour). Am wondering about going to an osteropath if it gets really bad.

      Chiropractors scare me – what is it like?

      • nutella Says:

        I have been to 3 different chiropractors in my life. #1 a d #3 were great, #2 wasa total quack. They guy I’m seeing now (#3) is wonderful and treats many pregnant women. The adjustment he can do for pregnancy are modified from non pregnancy. For example, there is no laying on my stomach, of course. AAfter my initial evaluation appointment of 1 hour my subsequent appointments are about 15 min. For the hip, lower back adjustments I lay on my side and he applies gentle pressureure to my hip while supporting my belly as it sort of almost falls off the table (only about 2 feet off the ground). As I exhale he applies slighlyt more pressure. Occasionally there is an audible “pop” For my upper and middle back I lay on my back, cross my arms over my chest (sometime hugging a slim cylinderical cushion), and he embraces me with his palms on either side of my spine and lifts me about 2 inches off the table. As I exhale, he squeezes tighter and occasionally I can hear my spine joints “pop”. That’s the majority of it, although there have been a few other variations, some with me sitting upright.

        If you can find a good provider, I think it can make a ton of difference. I’d ask the other moms in the twin group to see if they can recommend you to a reputable provider.

        • existere Says:

          Wow – thanks for the detailed info. I do know my pelvis and hips are currently level & okay. The problem is more in the extreme amount of movement they allow!

          Will definitely be doing research into my local area. Thanks again!!

  6. Jennie Says:

    Maternity belts can chafe, so you either have to go down the HUGE knickers road, or use a man’s handkerchief to stop it rubbing your tummy. I had SPD on my second pregnancy, and co-codamol to help me sleep (when I didn’t feel too guilty for taking it!). I didn’t use the belt in the end, just tried to limit my walking.

    Hope you find a way to be more comfortable soon!

    • existere Says:

      I have one belt I hate – ouch. This new one was hella expensive and a medical supply as opposed to something you get in the store. It felt like strapping clouds to myself at the appointment yesterday; I’m sure within a few days I will be moaning about it.

      Thanks for the tips. I am already in the VERY big knickers – but they are getting tight (bought the bastards two weeks ago!). At the moment I wear my knickers OVER my belly bra and count on the belly bra to protect my waist from the knickers. Ha.

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